I admit it. I am pretty stubborn. I am the type of person who doesn’t like to be told what to do and can get a little salty when someone tries.
It’s probably a good thing that I work for myself, right?
Anyway, when I started connecting with my Spirit Guides, I was under the impression that I had to follow their advice. I mean, I knew I had free-will (as we all do) so I didn’t have to follow their advice, but I guess I figured I should since they knew better than I did.
This is sort of true.
In case you don’t know, Spirit Guides are helpful beings who were once human souls and have volunteered to help guide you in this lifetime. They are aware of the Life Lessons you have chosen to work on, and are also aware of the major events and important people you have chosen for this incarnation in order to learn those life lessons and further your own soul’s growth.
They are not Divine Beings, are not God and are not all-knowing. They are just there to nudge you in the way that they see best. Sort of like a best friend giving you good advice.
Sometimes I forget this though. Here’s a good example of that:
We recently moved from Maui, Hawaii to Coeur d’Alene, Idaho. (Yes, I know you are probably shaking your head and wondering why we left paradise. I get it! We had a good reason, though. I promise.)
Our 5-year old son, Luke was in an awesome Montessori preschool on Maui and was thriving. He is a really smart kid and needs socialization and to be challenged academically. He is also sensitive and intuitive and needs to feel safe and secure on a level that I think other kids may not necessarily need.
As you can imagine, when we moved, finding a preschool was incredibly important for us. We researched, toured a variety of places, and asked everyone we came in contact with (waitresses, the front desk person at the dermatologist, local Facebook group members, you name it. When I say everyone, I mean everyone). We were basically told the same thing over and over: North Idaho has a shortage of good preschools.
They are either a glorified daycare (not interested), based around a particular religion (super not interested), or have a wait list so long he would be in second grade before he ever got to the top of the list for pre-k (dang!).
We had toured a particular Montessori here in Coeur d’Alene and had mixed feelings about it. It seemed a little disorganized and not nearly as awesome as the one he left on Maui, but we were feeling a bit desperate, considering our options.
I decided to ask my Spirit Guides about the school.
When you are making a decision and consulting your Guides, it’s important that you know Guides give you very specific answers to very specific questions. When I consult my Guides, I ask questions and find out how an option I may be considering is aligned (or not) with what my desired outcome is. It’s very specific.
In this case, I asked, “How aligned is Lucas attending that Montessori school (I used the school’s actual name when I asked) with our desired outcome of having him in an environment where he is happy, challenged academically and feels safe?”
For that, I received that it was 100% aligned with that desired outcome.
So, based on that one question, I decided to go ahead and enroll him.
When we went to drop him off, my intuition told me not to do it. I felt a knot in my stomach and a wave of anxiety and depression came over me. It was not a good feeling. I didn’t think he would be unsafe or anything, but that it was not a good fit and I was making a mistake.
Based on what my Guides told me though, I ignored my intuition and did it anyway. After all, it was 100% aligned with my desired outcome and who am I to question my Guides? Right?
Wrong. Rookie mistake.
Within 3 days, we pulled him from that school. He hated it. My happy go lucky kid who makes friends fast and loves to be engaged with others was coming home sad and not wanting to go to school. I felt horrible. Questions raced through my head:
Why did I listen to my Guides and not my intuition?
Did my Guides steer me wrong?
Why was this not the right school for him when my Guides said it was?
Simple. I asked the wrong question, ignored my own intuition, and let the information I received (by asking the wrong question) from my Guides influence my decision. I let my Guides ‘boss me around’, so to speak and it wasn’t even their fault!
What I could have done, was ask my original question and include time frames. For example, I could have asked if he would feel safe and happy and challenged in the long-term. Then, ask that same question, but with the short-term. Maybe even ask a third question by inquiring about other schools I might consider (both long and short-term). Then, look at the information I received from my Spirit Guides and make my own decision.
After kicking myself for all of the above, we ended up finding a fantastic school for him that he loves. He is thriving, happy, learning, making friends, and he comes home smiling every day.
The advice you receive from your Guides should never replace your own intuition for decisions you make. You never know if the advice they are giving is in response to you asking an unclear question, if the question isn’t specific enough, or if there is something else entirely affecting the advice they are giving at that moment. Working with your Spirit Guides is a tool to put in your toolbox and use as you see fit. It is not a crystal ball with future-telling capabilities. Use it thoughtfully and at your own discretion.
Like I said, your Spirit Guides are not the boss of you...you are!
Hi, I'm Shelly.
I am a mother, wife, spiritual blogger, and professional psychic. I am also sassy, down-to-Earth, and love to share my stories, tools, and connection to Spirit with all of you.
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